"The only way to have a friend is to be one"

My grandmother has always been incredibly proud of me. When her friend asked if I'd cope okay going to uni a year later, as my friends had all gone the year before she replied "Robin would make friends if she was captured by a tribe of human cannibals". 

Now I wouldn't necessarily agree with this but I'd like to think I'm pretty good with people and I've made some great friends. 

Making friends was easily my biggest worry about university, I mean who wants to live in a new town completely alone? I certainly didn't want that to ruin uni for me. Hearing from some other people at uni I have really lucked in with my flatmates this year. At home I'm part of a family of 5 and don't even remember the last time I returned to an empty house. 4/5 of my current flatmates are living together next year (including me) which seems a rare thing according to what most people have told me, some flats just do not talk. I can't imagine feeling at all happy not trying to talk with those you live with.

Of course there are people, not that I don't get along with, that I'm not exactly mates with but that's just life isn't it. I've gone the route of just being utterly normal, as if I already knew everyone as well as I do my hometown friends. I want to be able to be myself around people and this way anyone who I want to be mates with is already accepting of who I am. 

It all just feels a little bit tricky, like some people have gone in with a game plan. This could just be that I haven't actually needed to make friends for so long. Thoughts anyone? Or questions? 

What is it with first year?

So I'm in my first year of uni. I came to uni a year late whereas all my friends went straight into it and the hype was unbelievable I mean, you'd think the uni was paying them the way first year was raved about and why not right? Moving out. Doing your own thing away from your parents. Freedom! Personally I've been raised in a very liberal family and non of this has really been a big thing for me. If anything so far my first year hasn't had any of this, just a lot of worrying about making a good impression and getting my work done. 

I think that the way I interact with my family and friends, side note I adore them all, combined with this first year hype has slightly hindered my experience in comparison with my fellow students. It's all about going out and having a laugh which yeah I get but at the same time it feels so much like everyone has been given this "freedom" and now their actual level of maturity and their perception of their own maturity just don't match. They're trying too hard. I mean yeah I know I said I'm worrying about making a good impression but I'm not letting that hinder me just being me and having a good time. 

I'm more than open to the idea that it's all just me but is anyone else getting this impression too? A year in age is nothing proportionally but is that what it is? I don't want to be one of those people that constantly goes first year means nothing just need a pass because that's not what this is really about, more peoples attitudes to the whole idea of student living and effectively growing up. I'm in this student life bubble and it just makes it a bit difficult for everyone I think to look at things from just a normal adult perception. I myself am struggling. We don't need to grow up this fast surely?

I just don't really understand what it is with first year yet. 

So if any of you have been thinking the same way or maybe disagree completely then comment below, great to hear some insight :)

I'm nice I promise ...

PEOPLE OF THE INTERNET. After the surprisingly weird success of 2 blogs I started up for college work you've inspired me to start up a new blog. I've missed airing my views redundantly on the Internet and Twitter character limit can't quite fulfil my needs.

So I was learning about English lit and then Film. "What am I learning about now?!" I hear you cry, university. I'm learning how to accept that any adolescence I have has a time limit, soon I'll have to be a proper adult. Watch out here to see how I'm coping and hit me up with your experiences too. We can both despair in our quickly fading childhood nonchelance.

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